Put On Your Big Girl Panties and Deal With It

Put On Your Big Girl Panties and Deal With It

When my kids were little, most of there quarrels would end with "But its not fair".  My response was always the same;  "Life is not fair, so get used to it".   Well apparently "Its not fair" is no longer just for kids.

I guess I misinformed my children.  My response should have been; "Life is not fair, so when it doesn't go your way, bitch and moan until it does."  Kids have to be confused.

Is everything supposed to be fair?  Was that a promise made by God?

Recently I had two friends that were dealing with two different types of loss.  Two mothers, one lost a child in death, the other, to prison.  Both mothers were grieving there children.  The difference was this:  The mother, whose child was sent to prison, looked at how the justice system took her child away.  It was hard to even be around her because of the anger and pity.  She could not get pass the feeling of how unfair life was. 

I never heard, from my other friend who's child died, that life was unfair.  She grieved and she remembered her child.  When asked how she was making it through, she said;  "God doesn't promise a life without pain but he promises to hold us up when the pain is to hard to handle on our own.  I can do this because God is holding me up."

Life is a ride.  Where it takes you and how bumpy it gets, does not matter because you have no control.  The only thing that you can control is how you ride it.

I would now change my response to my children;   "Its life, and there will be some bumps.  Don't worry because God will ride with you."